Blaming has become extremely common in our culture. On a personal level, it has led us to believe that we are never completely responsible for our own actions, problems, or happiness. When we are in the habit of blaming others, we will blame others for our anger, frustration, depression, stress, and unhappiness.
In terms of personal happiness, you cannot be peaceful while at the same time blaming others. Surely there are times when other people and/or circumstances contribute to our problems, but it is we who must rise to the occasion and take responsibility for our own happiness. It may be applicable even in a multi-cultured, ethnic environment including a well structured multi-national company (MNC) or within a nuclear family. After looking the sledging attitude and make it a real professional company they implement rules and monitors in place – but it may still happen (ha ha,pls don’t pull my leg), because just finishing professional degree, wearing business formal, sitting in a higher position (for me really they’re show-off, if you don’t have humane, they you will be counted in…) doesn’t make or show people really professional. For me it shows just your attitude and how you’re – does it make sense.
As an experiment, notice what happens when you stop blaming others for anything and everything in your life. This doesn't mean you don't hold people accountable for their actions, but that you hold yourself accountable for your own happiness and for your reactions to other people and the circumstances around you. Blaming others takes an enormous amount of mental energy. It's a "drag-me-down" mind-set that creates stress and disease. Blaming makes you feel powerless over your own life because your happiness is dependent on the actions and behavior of others, which you can't control. I love this famous quote by Mark Twain “When angry, count to four; when very angry, swear.”
During the time of writing this, i noticed the incident - At the top of the medal tally and the undisputed champions of the Commonwealth Games, the Australian team, sadly didn't show any sporting spirit when their cricket team lost the Test series to India on Wednesday. Earlier co-Australian cricketers Glen McGrath, Ricky Ponting used to do sledging or blame on their opponents in the field – where cricket is known for Gentle Man’s game - and just want to win at any cost. Now it's the CWG aussies turn it seems... Even though they’re CWG champions, but they lost the credibility which they earned and shows their disgusting sportsmanship.
When you stop blaming others, you will regain your sense of personal power. I used to see couple of successful people like Mahatma Gandhi, Sachin Tendulkar, Rajinikanth, APJ Abdul Kalam, Atal Bihari Vajpayee, Bill Gates – they never answered or care about their critics or sledging or blame game. They understand their arena, strengths and weakness. They will give their fitting reply by their actions, abilities for their blamers. Now you can decide you need to end your life as a blamer or visionary? You will see yourself as a choice maker. You will know that when you are upset, you are playing a key role in the creation of your own feelings. This means that you can also play a key role in creating new, more positive feelings. So enjoy the moment you live and life is easier to manage when you stop blaming others.
Wonderful one. Worth of reading.
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